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Monday, December 26, 2005

Fernando Bengoechea
1965 - 2004

1 Year Later. Still Loved. Still Missed.
"if I could just see you everything will be alright.
If I see you the storminess will turn to light.
And I will walk on water.
And you will catch me if I fall.
And I will get lost into your eyes.
And everything will be alright..."


Anonymous Cathy Back said...

Dear Nate,

Just want you to know that we are thinking of you here in Australia as the year anniversary of the loss of your wonderful Fernando comes closer.

You are a wonderful person with a truly good spirit and we wish you much happiness for the future.

Much love from The Back Family, Sydney Australia

3:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Nate,
Fernando will always be with you. Your such a beautiful role model to many.Thanks Nate!!!

10:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Nate,

Fernando will always live in you, as you and he were one. When he moved on, it was you he was with, no other love. As you look uo in the sky, that one twinkling star is he, shinning uppon you once again.

Descansa mi querido amor, pues en ti vivo yo.

Monmouth County NJ

11:09 AM  
Blogger Gerry said...


I'm not sure if you read these things ... but please know that my thoughts are with you today and all of those that lost loved ones during the tsunami.

Be strong, Nate ... and CONTINUE! The world needs more people like you.

All the best in '06,

Toronto, Canada

10:33 AM  
Blogger Mitch said...

Dear Nate, I've thought of you often this past year and I admire your spirit and ability to go on. Fernando lives on in you. God Bless you,

10:37 PM  
Blogger 2006 said...

Dear Nathaniel
I had never heard about you before I saw you telling your story on Oprah. But it was something about you and your story about what happend to you, and how you lost your loved one that really moved me, and I have been thinking about you ever since.
I know what it is like to loose someone you love, and it's hard these days since it's been a year since the tragedy, all the memories comes back.
But life must go on, I sure Fernando would have wanted you to be happy and find love again, no matter what, he will always have a special place in your heart. I wish you all the best, you seems like a wonderful person, take good care of yourself!

Lots of love from a norwegian girl who also lost someone in the Tsunami.

10:14 AM  
Anonymous Will said...

Dear Nate
Your courage is an inspiration.

A Blessing for Absence
(from Celtic Spirituality)

May you know that absence is full of tender presence and that nothing is ever lost or forgotten.
May the absences in your life be full of eternal echo. May you sense around you the secret Elsewhere which holds The presences that have left your life.
May you be generous in your embrace of loss. May the soreness of your grief turn into a well of seamless presence. May your compassion reach out to the ones we never hear from and may you have the courage to speak out for the excluded ones. May you behold the gracious and passionate subject of your own life. May you not disrespect your mystery through brittle words or false belonging. May you be embraced by God in whom dawn and twilight are one and may your longing inhabit its deepest dreams within the shelter of the Great Belonging.

7:34 AM  
Anonymous Quinnette said...

Dear Nate
I have thought of you often this last year and said a prayer for you the anniversary of the tsunami tragedy as I knew you were there. But I only heard of your true horror just the other day as I was raving about your book to a friend. I wished there was a way I could post my thoughts, blessing and wishes of love to you, then I found this site....My parents died 21 years ago and from that I learned:
The importance of allowing the
grieving process to take me,

there is no death, only a change of worlds...(Duwamish proverb)

that not a day goes by that your loved ones are not in your thoughts and not a second they are not in your heart...

the free-flow of your bleeding heart would have clotted a year later, but still is quite tender, the confusion of everything and the commotion that surrounds death will clear and will later turn into only love.

I hated when people said "time heals" but Nate, it really, really does...

Blessings, lots of love, hugs and kisses and warmest wishes.

7:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Nate,
May the love that you once shared be with you always and slowly allow the healing process to take place. May God grant you comfort and peace and as the anniversary of your love one draws near remember the good times you two had and how he's still smiling from above.

All my Love
Kwalah from
Staten Island
New York

7:18 AM  
Blogger Mike said...

Dear Nate,

It's been a year since your tragic loss. But look at you now. You are strong. You make it through. I really glad and proud seeing you happy again.

You are one of my inspiration.

Mikael Setiawan
Bandung - Indonesia

2:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Time doesn't heal any wound like the one you have.

Try and think: "life isn't always beautiful, but it's a beautiful ride"

from lyrics by Cyndi Goodman and Tommy Lee James.

Your loss of Fernando is tragic, but your life is better for the ride with him.

Best wishes,

3:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hello nate,

i am nix from the philippines. Last night i was watching Oprah and i saw you pouring your heart out with your feather being the memory of your beloved Fernando. I am here for you.. I will constantly pray for continual strength to you.

A new friend,

4:10 AM  
Anonymous Cameron Bayliss said...

Dearest Nate & to Fernando's loved ones,

A Free Spirit Always Finds His Way Home.

It is because of the sadness and tragedy that you have endured and your heartfelt truths that inspired me to set up the 'Swept Away Project'. I immediately wrote a song called 'Swept Away' after watching you on Miss Winfrey's Talk Show. The song has been recorded and is said to be a number 1 hit when released in the next few weeks. (So I have been told).

I found inspiration for my life on the day you were on Oprah and that was the best gift I could've been given. Through your strength, courage and sheer will to survive, you have given me the strength to survive. The dreams I have had for myself only started coming true when you entered my life through the magic of Television.

Losing Fernando, one of the most talented and inspiring photographers of our generation has been one of the saddest things that you Nate and your combined families will ever have to endure. I wish I knew the exact words to say to bring back the genuine smiles that you all had before Fernando's death, but all I can say is how sorry I am and promise that I will live the best life I possibly can in the memory of Fernando. It is because of what I witnessed on the Oprah when you were talking about the Tsunami that has made me want to live life to my greatest expectations and always live it with love in my heart and grace in my soul - because I am here, living life on earth, fulfilling my dreams and reaching out to people to make them live their best life possible.

Thank you so much Nate for inspiring me to be a better man.
It is with the Song Swept Away that I have written in which you will remember Fernando the most as I wrote the song in memory to him and in dedication you.

I wish you nothing but the best of love, luck and happiness the world has to offer and I wish on every star in the night sky that you will one day genuinally smile again.

Kindest Regards For Always

Cameron Bayliss

8:38 PM  

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